The Truth is truly Free… While Lies will Cost you Dearly (aka How Liars Become such Angry, Exhausted, Bitter People)

For Her, The Truth is No Burden

For Her, The Truth is No Burden

For me, the Truth has mass and weight. There is solidity to the Truth, making it immovable and unalterable. The Truth is what it is. In my mind’s eye, I see the Truth as a solid, red square.

When you are in alignment with the Truth, the Truth is not a burden. Even it is solidity, the Truth is light in energy and principle. The Truth requires nothing from us. Thus, when we engage in the Truth, we are free.

Now, let us look at those who choose to live in lies. (Not the simple lies we tell in order to make ourselves and others feel better, but the devastating lies to mislead, control, and induce fear.)

When someone is choosing to lie, they are of course not in line with the Truth. In A Course in Miracles, it states, “Nothing real can be threatened.”

And here is what happens for those who lie. The Truth is real and can not be threatened. Lies are not real, and thus, are ALWAYS under threat.

We have lived and continue to live histories of lies on a personal and global level. There was a time when the lie that people of the Jewish faith were destroying the world was believed to the point of creating the sustaining the Holocaust. There was a time when the lie was told that people of a particular color were so worthless that their only worth could be extracted by having them serve others. Such lies- one after the other.

But, the Truth remained. Sometimes, much to our horror, clouded over and somewhat hidden by these crazy lies, but forever present, and forever waiting, with eternal patience, for our visions to clear the clouds, so finally we may see what was before our eyes all this time.

In my mind’s eyes, I see lies as black, dark vapor clouds. For liars, each and every day, and perhaps every moment, requires an input of energy into the creation and sustenance of these clouds.

Why? Because the clouds of lies are not real!! Without the liars input of energy, the liar knows that these clouded lies, being not real, will fall apart and fade away.

Thus, the liar is caught having to sustain something that is not real and the only way to sustain something not real is to put continual energy into it. Why? Because the lie, being not real, is incapable of sustaining itself.

The next time you are with someone who perpetually lies, notice how angry, bitter, and exhausted this person is. And think about this person and his or her day- how he or she must create and manage this dark, vapor cloud of lies for the lies to continue to exist. Imagine the care, the energetic cost and drain upon this individual as he or she tries to maintain these false entities.

And, this is what we do if we choose to lie to ourselves. When we lie, we must expend exorbitant amounts of energy maintaining something that was never meant to exist anyway. The lie is not real, and thus under constant threat and so extracts energy from us.

The Truth will set your free because it requires no energy from you. Lies will cost you greatly, because they require everything from us, simply to exist.

The One Truth Needed to Change Your Life



And there stood the Truth-
Alone and free-
Needing Nothing.

We all tell lies. In moments of desperation, we invest greatly in maintaining these lies.

We may lie to ourselves in any number of ways. We declare our family is “great”, when it is clearly dysfunctional. We tell ourselves our marriage is doing “fine”, when in fact the tension is unbearable. We convince ourselves that our children’s problems are “not that bad”. We tell ourselves that we are “not great”, when in fact we are amazing.

We cover. We hide. We divert. We project. And all the while, there stands the Truth, right before our eyes.

We believe in the relationship of the following: the more invested in the lie, the closer the lie becomes to being the Truth. We sincerely believe this idea – as if our invested energy can somehow turn lead to gold or lie to truth.

We forget that the Truth stands free-unaltered by any such machinations.

I picture the Truth as a large, red block- solid, uncompromising. We may try to hide it with clouded thinking, but there it stands- on its own, forever.

Sometimes I simply pray, “I do not know what to do next, but at this moment, I can at least acknowledge the Truth.”

The Truth (in my limited view and mind) may not be pretty, but covering it in lies does not change it.

The Truth needs nothing from us. It does not need exploitation, declarative sharing, modifications, prettifying, distortions, hiding, covering, or altering.

The Truth only requires one thing to change your World- and that is this- that you finally come to recognize it.

Look…Now…Before you is the Truth Written on the Wall

I see Me.  Thank God. Thank God.

I see Me. Thank God. Thank God.

Reset assured, dear one.
When all seems lost and you know not the next turn in your life,
a light shines within you even in the time most dark.

No man nor man-made situation may lay a single finger of darkness
upon this vibrancy.

It is only you, and your temporarily calloused eyes which
have become blinded to your own sacred brilliancy.

A single clouded moment does not cover up the sun’s brilliance
and a moment of blocked vision does not alter your own nature.

And when you forget this, when you believe, even for a minute,
in the darkness you sense around you-

Take heart and remember:

Your Spirit, your ever-present, God-given, brilliant Spirit
will upon occasion lift the veils that blind you and bind you.

All you have to do is sincerely ask.

Sometimes we get so used to telling ourselves lies that we forget the Truth is always present.

We may to lie to ourselves about any number of situations for any number of reasons. Often, these lies are not told to protect ourselves or get ourselves out of perceived trouble- oh, if only it were that easy.

The lies we tell often have to do with our own insecurity, fear, doubt, worry, anxiety, and sense of failure.

The other night I was handling something for my husband related to his children. I told him with a certain level of intensity to make sure he followed through. And he told me “You act like I am going to forget!”

And in that moment, my Spirit graced me with eyes that could see and before me on the wall (in my mind) appeared the words “You are acting like he will forget because in the past he has told you, repeatedly, that he forgets things.”

The truth has always been there. I have told myself the lie that I must compensate for my husband, make sure he doesn’t forget things, remember for him, etc.

When did this begin? Some time early in my life, I believed I was only of value if I helped people. I have spent a lifetime supporting this lie.

I am of value because I am who I am. And, I do not need to participate in the lies of others any more.

The truth of the matter was that my husband does forget things- often. I was trying to “help” him remember. In the past, I would have taken his statement to heart and chastised myself for being to “intense” and “not believing in him”.

The lie would have continued.

The truth is there for each of us in our lives- written on the walls, in books, in posts, in our hearts and in our minds.

Today, don’t lie to yourself to make something “better”. Let the truth stand. The truth is ever-present anyway. We simply cover it and hope it goes away. The truth, though, remains, awaiting our prayers.

Let yourself trust enough to handle the truth today-even in one situation, no matter how small you tell yourself it is. Believe and see with your vision.

A common Error…We know the Truth and then Spend Hours on the Lies

I See My Own Truth

I See My Own Truth

I don’t know your view of Heaven. I am not even sure I know my own. But, I frequently make the joke that in Heaven, if one’s life is laid before one’s self, I never want to see an accounting of all the money I have spent on Diet Coke.

A very small issue, I know, but I am sure I would be appalled at the income I have given to vending machines and convenience stores throughout my time to purchase this beverage with absolutely no nutritional value.

Along the same vein, but on a more serious note, is an epiphany I had recently- how much time I have spent on the lies of others.

The Truth simply is. We do not need to defend it, color it, attempt to hide it, reveal it, or modify it in any way. The Truth can stand on its own.

I know this, but I now also know how many literal hours I have spent on the lies of others.

My best example of this is my role as stepmother. For at least 2 years, lies were told about me. The lies included what a mean person I was, how the kids hated me, how the kids were fearful of me, how no one could ever like me, etc.

You know, I did not buy into these lies. But, I did make a fatal mistake. I tried to convince others who were telling these lies that their lies were not the truth.

I wasted hours on my scheme of conviction. I came up with examples, explanations, scenarios, dramatic re-enactments all to show them the truth – which was simply this- I am a loving stepmom. I make mistakes, of course, but making a mistake does not indicate a lack of love.

Whenever you are caught in a situation of lies, please don’t make the mistake I did. Stand your ground, for sure, but trust in the Truth. The Truth is there, whether others can see it or not.

If others are hell-bent on telling lies about you, because of their own weakness, delusions, or insanity, you do not have to spend hours trying to change their views (because most likely they will not change them anyway).

An important point to note, the person telling the lies is very, very invested in these lies. They will expend an inordinate amount of time defending, harassing, demanding of others all to get support for their lies.

Why? Do they think they are they right? May be, may be not.

The fact is they must spend so much time, energy and engagement on the lie, because the lie is NOT the Truth. A lie can never stand on its own. It must be fed, cared for, and paid the utmost attention, because it is not real. Without this time and energy invested, the lie falls apart, a deflated projection, prostrating its self before the Truth.

When we try to counteract these lies, we are actually playing into the hands of the liars. We are giving time and energy to things which are not even real.

I read many blogs about abusers, sociopaths, and narcissists. They are the ultimate liars and we have spent too much time on their acts of ridiculousness and their absurd lies.

Know yourself and Know your Truth. Trust that who and what you are can stand on its Own. You do not need to waste hours of time counteracting the insanity of others.

Your time and energy are needed elsewhere- loving your life and all the blessings you have been given. Let others live in the darkness of their lies, knowing your Truth and its light prevents such darkness from remaining in your Life.