I use mantras all the time. In fact, I listen to mantras so often while driving that my stepkids and I refer to my car as the “Mantra Mobile”. I have them playing in the background while cooking, helping with homework, and even when no one is the room, I leave them playing to clear the air.
All of the mantras I listen to are not in English- that does not lessen their power, of course.
But at times, given that I have narcissist near by, I find myself creating mantras to help me understand and find my power within this harmful dynamic (any time you interact with a narcissist, it is harmful.)
My current mantra has been this “I honor that in any given situation I am free to respond as needed based on my principles, understanding, and awareness.”
I use this mantra because sometimes when I interact with a narcissist, I call forth some pretty base behaviors. Why? Because sometimes those are the only behaviors a narcissist will “see” and “understand”. At other times, I have lied, hidden things, and denied something in order to protect my loved ones from the wrath of a narcissist. Still at other times, I have given in to the narcissist to maintain peace.
What the mantra affirms for me is that dealing with a narcissist is very, very difficult. It may require us to pull out behaviors that we would prefer to not have to engage in.
We can honor that we are doing the best we can, and that our principles, understanding, and awareness are leading us to the best possible (infinite) solutions. There is no right or wrong when dealing with a narcissist- there is awareness and understanding that each moment may require a unique response from us.