We have all heard the saying about throwing good money after bad.
Having a narcissist in your life can have you enacting this energetically. You will be tempted, almost constantly, to throw good energy in after the narcissist’s craziness.
You will attempt, after the narcissistic destruction, to use your good energy to clean up, clear up, prop up, dispose of, enlighten, change, recreate, reform, reformat, start over, begin again, cover up and/or conceal the mess made by the narcissist.
You will use your beautiful energy to attempt to transform the craziness that resulted from the narcissist’s need to crazy make.
How do I know this? I live this all the time with my stepkids. Their mother, in my estimation, demonstrates narcissistic behaviors. These have not improved over time.
Too often I feel compelled to somehow “fix” all the damage she has done. Throwing good energy after craziness.
In the past weeks, she has “accidentally” chopped off 4 inches of my stepdaughter’s hair.
Told the kids she will not be taking them on a vacation she has promised for 3 years now (they are holding out hope, as she told them “But we will go next year! I promise! “).
Had my stepson not turn in 1 assignment (literally) while he lives with her.
Taken my stepson to several medical specialists in the past weeks as she manifests her need to be seen as a “good mother” ( at least to medical personnel when all other sources for mirroring this for her have been destroyed). My stepson has manifested one psychosomatic issue after another in a desperate need to “keep Mommy” paying attention to him.
Good energy after the craziness- otherwise known as living with a narcissist.