I love this picture.
I created it for my stepchildren to acknowledge the sense of spinning loyalties and movements that children of divorce may experience.
The story for so many kids in this situation is the sense of constant movement.
Always packing, unpacking, repacking.
“The two for one special.”
Two homes, two beds, two kitchens, two living rooms, two sets of rules, two sets of expectations for one child/ren.
Spinning, spinning, spinning.
Always remembering, reminding, checking it once, checking it twice – as information must make it not to one, but two, households.
Coordinate, coordinate, coordinate.
The “one for all” dynamic.
Child/ren as the “one” meeting the needs of the “all”, no matter how diverse, incongruent, and divisive the “all” may be.
The endless motivating, anticipating, hedging- as difficult discussions or situations arise and must be headed off at the pass.
Modulate. Modulate. Modulate.
Bring to balance what has fallen into ashes.
p.s I not only liked this picture for my stepkids, I liked it for me, or for anyone in a confusing situation. The image in the center is a figure bent over. Have you ever felt this way- head leaning over with fatigue and spinning and spinning around until you are completely dizzy? That is how life can be sometimes, and to me, this image speaks to that.