Sometimes when I write my postings about narcissism, I sense an underlying current of suggestion from others that perhaps I need to stop and reflect on the idea that everyone needs love.
Of course they do.
That is normally not the intent of my narcissist postings- to state the narcissist does not need love. What would be the point of that anyway?
In so many ways, I believe Love is the underpinning of our existence, our Truth, if you will.
The questions of “What’s Love gotta to with it?” is somewhat irrelevant.
Love has everything to do with it.
However, Love is not the only “It”, existing in isolation.
When my stepchildren ask me about their mother and why she does what she does, I tell them that she loves them, however, I also say, she is, at this time, unable to love them effectively as they need.
Does that sound cruel? I don’t know. But I do know, based on their questions, that they already know she does not “love” them effectively. They are only left wondering why.
They want an explanation, a reason to make it all better.
This is what I think we are confronted with- our desire for love to the underpinning of it all, but this is to be tempered with our AWARENESS.
I truly feel that love is not the challenge. Awareness is. Awareness asks us to reflect, to own up, to decide, to create, to destroy, to be strong, to be thoughtful.
Love may be blind. Awareness is not.
Our prayer need not always be “I want to be more loving”. We are already love. What we are seeking is to be more aware.