Narcissists at their core are sadistic.
Do not lie to yourself about this, and do not allow
others to tell you otherwise for convenience.
Narcissists are skilled workers of the knife’s edge-
listen to the their words- and you miss the action of the blade
as it slices in two.
I follow many blogs about narcissism and I, of course, post my own on the topic here and there. One thing that always concerns me is the (sometimes) flippant idea that one should simply eliminate the narcissist from one’s life (this is not realistic for all). Those who give such advice, without an awareness of the context, only create further a sense of isolation and failure for the victim of a narcissist.
For those who experience narcissistic abuse, it can be difficult to find the vocabulary to express how terrifying and horrible it really is.
Why do words fail? Because the narcissist has often commandeered the vocabulary. Narcissists often speaks the “right” words as a set-up for their culminating destructive act.
Those who interact with narcissists have learned to read the terrifying messages between the lines and lips of the narcissist.
And in between those lines, even amongst the finest lines, the sadism of the narcissist will lurk. Narcissists are not satisfied with the “quick kill” – the sense of triumphant and control is not the the initial knife hit, it is in the twisting of the knife with very, very specific words known to impact the victim.