One thing that currently drives me crazy about the thoughts and behaviors of narcissists is how narcissists go around and label everyone’s intentions.
Of course, being narcissists, they color everyone’s intentions with darkness.
Run into a male co-worker at a restaurant and speak to him? The narcissist describes your intentions as wanting to have an affair. (You were simply saying “Hi”. Being in a relationship with a narcissist, how would you ever have the mental/physical space to cheat anyway? It’s Narcissist, narcissist, narcissist all the time.)
Buy needed items for the household. Perhaps purchase an extra something on sale? The narcissist labels your intention as the desire to destroy him financially. (Really, you were just trying to keep the bathrooms stocked with toilet paper, crazy person that you are.)
Want to spend time with your friends and family? The narcissist describes your intentions as unbelievably selfish and a sure sign you don’t love him. (Really, you were just trying to be “normal” and see your family- that thing non-narcissists everywhere do.)
It is incredibly demoralizing, let alone, painful, to have one’s sincere actions labeled as if you have some horrible, destructive intentions.
Each and every action you take in a relationship with a narcissist can be twisted and turned until you end up feeling like and looking like the “bad guy”.
It can become so bad, that you, yourself, may begin to doubt that love was the intention behind your actions. Don’t let this happen to you.
If your action was motivated by love- know that and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.
To each and every narcissist I may come across in life- my motto is simply this-
DO NOT LABEL MY ACTIONS WITH YOUR OWN CRAZY, DELUSIONAL INTENTIONS.