Protecting Yourself by Liking Yourself

Stepping Into

Stepping Into

I often wonder what pushes us forward in life. What transforms us? What stimulates our movement from an abusive relationship or toxic behaviors (by others or those we lay upon ourselves)?

And I think it begins with one thought inside of us – we begin to like ourselves. We begin to like ourselves enough to say “No” to things that hurt, belittle, injure, or limit us.

This initial liking may be but a small sliver, but it is enough for the magic to begin. It begins to serve as a reference for what will and what will not be allowed in our lives.

And in this liking of ourselves, we establish a sense of value within ourselves. And like anything of value, we begin to understand that we are worth protecting. So we leave harmful situations or if we can not leave, we begin to take measure both big and small to protect our value.

I do this in many ways throughout my life. The jewelry I wear and the colors I wear each day have symbolic meaning to me. No one else needs to know that if I am wearing yellow that I am working on the third chakra and my sense of self.

I also set up animal totems all throughout my home. Until recently, I had been on a reptilian trend (try finding that in a home decorating magazine πŸ™‚ ). If you ever need to call up protective energy in your life, reptiles will show you the way. I also have statues of Kali in a windows facing outwards to protect against negative thoughts and energy.

Energetically, the possibilities are endless in how we may bolster our spirits and protect the energy we encounter. Jewelry, colors, totems, figurines may all speak to us in their unique qay.

Finally this thinking lead to the creation of the little figure up top. It’s supposed to be a hedgehog. I know nothing about hedgehogs, other than they began showing up in my dreams.

I looked up hedgehog symbolism and was confronted with a picture of one and a quote by Martha Graham – “You are unique, and if that is not fulfilled, then something has been lost.”

I was struck by this quote. We are unique and we have something to fulfill- which extends way beyond any limitations and control brought on by others or limitations we put upon ourselves by harmful behaviors and thoughts.

As I read further, hedgehogs are associated with the spanning rays of the sun. (it made me think of my image. I always create first and then learn what the image may symbolize). But the hedgehog is a nocturnal creature.

I liked this image. We often represent much more strength and power then we ever give ourselves credit for. If the tiny little hedgehog can live in the night and still represent the sun in its unique way, then certainly you and I can find it within ourselves to find our own unique representation of life.

“Like yourself” – that is the message I get from all of this. I see a little hedgehog in the image, colorfully displayed, heading with some uncertainty to the overwhelming rays of light. And I would like to say, “You are going to be o.k.”

22 thoughts on “Protecting Yourself by Liking Yourself

  1. Love that image today, and also, I never gave any thought to the idea that when we say no to any kind of abuse, disrespect etc we are actually LIKING and taking care of ourselves. That’s kind of neat to think about!

  2. wow great post…you said.
    We often represent much more strength and power then we ever give ourselves credit for.

    so interesting…years ago, in another life time of what I was DOING…folks gave me imagines of hedgehogs! I was mystified! Why?! I never understood! apparently they understood me more than I understood myself!

    β€œYou are unique, and if that is not fulfilled, then something has been lost.”….

    today, NOW, years after, I now understand…what was lost in my life…at that time…and what I was attempting to fulfill to find that ‘lost’ something…

    but…it doesn’t manifest in ways that we ‘see’ and it’s ONLY in moments of reflection that we can recognize HOW it did and had manifest in our lives…that’s the message of the hedgehog!

    like yourself…NOT the imagine that you would like others to see you as but as
    yourself which is unique and it changes as life changes us all.

    • This does not surprise me, my dear friend. You are right it is often only later that we truly understand the manifestations. I am not surprised friends were giving you images of hedgehogs. That resonates beautifully. thank you so much for sharing this. I can so “see’ you in these words.

  3. What a beautiful post Kim!! I love hedgehogs! πŸ™‚ I seem to have a special connection with birds, they show up everywhere and want to talk to me! πŸ™‚ My house is full of angels, I mean angel figurines, probably real ones as well πŸ™‚ Colors make me feel something specific, so I use colors too, but mostly I am drawn to the soft colors, like pastels. They make feel good πŸ™‚ I love your artwork by the way, I always love your artwork πŸ™‚ Have a lovely lovely day! πŸ™‚

  4. Great post. I think many of us lacked models for self-love, so we never learned how to even like ourselves. Growing up many hear nothing but criticism about how we’re not conforming to expectations. It is sad, but awareness is key to turning that around. Your posts are so good at bringing that awareness into being. Thanks for doing and ‘being’ that pathfinder!

  5. Your posts are always so inspiring Kimberly πŸ™‚ I like the image you’ve used very much and the symbolism-it’s beautiful!

  6. Reblogged this on The Little Things and commented:
    I love this post because, personally, learning to like myself–even part of the time–has been so incredibly difficult. Peeling back all of the layers of shame and defensiveness I’ve encased myself in is truly a struggle. For me, two things have helped. One is my firm belief that I (that we are all) made in the image and likeness of God–the “imago Dei”; the other is a quote from St. Catherine of Siena: “Become who God meant you to be, and you will set the world on fire.”

  7. I am not sure that I can add to what has already been said, except that I love this post so much I just had to re blog it!

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