Your Compassionate Heart is NOT meant to be Ridiculously Compliant

Always Growing

Always Growing

The Compassionate Heart knows its limit.

Other may cry “More, More” to a Heart that is already full,
but the Heart knows itself and understands its role.

The Heart must beat in a manner to ensure its own survival.

To those who clamor for “more”, the Compassionate Heart
simply nods and smiles, understanding it helps

no one if the first beat, the one for the self,fails.

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I always think we can learn so much from our actual hearts. The heart fills and contracts, and it must be able to do both to complete its job.

Sometimes the heart is too rigid and can not be filled (diastolic dysfunction). To me, this is exemplifies a heart with low compassion. It can not take in and process the emotions, experiences of others.

Those with compassionate hearts seldom have this problem. We easily fill with the hopes, dreams, pains and sadnesses of hearts other than our own.

On the flip side of being too rigid, though, the heart may become over-stretched and too compliant. In this case, the heart has no problem filling. However, in its over-filled, over-stretched state, it can not coordinate itself in a manner to generate an effective beat (systolic dysfunction).

This to me, speaks to the issue of a heart that is compassionate to its own determinant. It allows itself to be overfilled with the thoughts, concerns, lives of others, to the point it can no longer generate an effective beat for itself.

Compliance (the ability to fill) must be balanced with elasticity (the ability to return to one’s original state).

I think of this in my own life. To have a compassionate heart is one of life’s gift to the world. But to have a heart that can not generate a beat for its self is to have a heart that is not helping anyone.

Learn from your heart. Take measure within- you are to be compassionate, yes, but not compliant to the point where you can no longer beat for yourself.

11 thoughts on “Your Compassionate Heart is NOT meant to be Ridiculously Compliant

  1. Kimberly, can I ask you about how one would learn art therapy? Your drawings have been so meaningful to me. I’m not artistic yet I wonder if it’s something a person can learn? I look for outlets for the PTSD. Any thoughts?

    • HI Mandy, I am glad my heart has had an impact on you. Yes, yes, yes on art therapy and PTSD! YOu can “say” things with art that you never would have noticed before. I have never used a specific art therapy book, but there are several on amazon. Also, depending on where you live, some times art therapy programs are offered. take care!

  2. This was a huge help today. I shared the idea with my supervisor who, like me, was feeling a little swollen by all the demands and needs coming at us. We are better for our students and our families if we pause, set kind yet firm limits, and model a healthier kind of caring. Then she and I put on our coats and took a walk in the winter sun.

  3. Thank you – again you wrote something easy to remember, very simpe and yet enourmously important!: “Learn from your heart. Take measure within- you are to be compassionate, yes, but not compliant to the point where you can no longer beat for yourself.”

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