I have recently been reading the words by David R. Hawkins. If you are unfamiliar with his work, he is a spiritual teacher, who speaks about the “energy calibration’ of thoughts, words and ideas.
Perhaps it is because I am a scientist that this idea intrigues me. According to Hawkins, certain energy patterns and thoughts are low energy: anger, resentment, jealousy, etc. For our purposes, let’s say on a scale of 1-10, these are level 1 states energetically.
Likewise, on the other end of the spectrum, love, compassion, kindness, resonate at level 8 or above.
I have been asking myself constantly- What energetic state am I deciding to enact? What is the highest energy state I can engage with? The more personal work you do, the more self-growth that you engage in, the higher your vibrational state. We have all experienced this sensation. The awe we suddenly feel when we realize our efforts in relation to personal growth are paying dividends. We act differently, we are more aware, we are more gentle, and we realize our stamp on the world is transforming for the better.
I began to think of narcissists in relation to this scale. Narcisissm resonates very, very low on the energy scale. The emotions and behaviors which make up narcissism- shame, anger, rage, self-serving, condemnation and so on- are all in the energetic basement.
What I have come to understand, that in some ways we are limited in our abilities to resonate with different energies. A person who normally resonates at a 6 or 7 on our scale in regards to behavior easily understands love, compassion, selfless-ness Someone at a level 1 or 2, such as a narcissist, can not contemplate nor relate to extremely high energetic values.
That is why conversations with narcissists are often insanity- producing. You try to speak about love and light, and a narcissist simply can not go there mentally to any great extent. They are trapped at a level 1 or 2.
I picture narcissists in this way as a pane of glass. Given the right frequency, sound can make glass shatter. To me narcissists are panes of glass waiting to explode. Present a narcissist with love and compassion (as so many of us have done) and they simply can not handle it. The higher energetic frequencies cause the fragile narcissist to lose it.
Whether or not you have a narcissist in your life, this idea is important in all our relationships. Whenever you transform, your relationships transform with you. Some you decide to leave behind, whereas other are strengthened. Wehn you think in terms of energy, you understand what is happening. As you move into higher energetic states in your emotions and behaviors, you resonate differently and your life and relationships transform with you.