If you are in a relationship with a Narcissist, would you like to know what a Narcissist hears about you- Nothing. Nada. Not a single thing.
Are you talking about yourself around a Narcissist? Save your breath.
Your words are mere empty prattle lost amidst the on-going, never-ending conversation they are having within themselves.
We are all familiar with the story of Narcissist and Echo. Although the character of Echo is relevant for a number of reasons, it is also symbolically significant in the physical sense brought to my attention this past weekend. I was hearing a little child yell “Echo” “Echo” in an empty staircase. His “Echos”, of course, were met with resounding “echos”.
Have you ever tried to talk over an echo? It’s impossible to be clearly heard in an echo-ing situation, and that is what happens when you speak to a Narcissist.
If you are not talking about them, they only hear “echos” within their own mind of what they want to hear. Reverberating through them are ideas about how the world should be, how the world has failed them, how misunderstood they are, how everyone else has problems that in turn are causing THEM problems, and so on, and so on, and so on…. echo…echo…echo…
If you are like me, you have perhaps tried different tactics to gain the Narcissist’s attention. It’s like banging a cymbal in an echo-chamber. No matter what technique you use, nothing will be heard.
I actually witnessed this recently. A Narcissist in my life was presented information- by trained professionals, no less- about something in her life. She heard none of it. I am not kidding- not a word. Conversations ended and this Narcissist summarized her take on the discussions with a horrifying lack of awareness. Not a single word spoken penetrated her mind, all she heard were the echos…