The Lie All Women are Told About their Periods
When you only tell someone half of the story, the story then becomes a lie, a half-truth, a half-narrative that never reaches completion.
Women have suffered under such stories for ages, and perhaps no more so than in regards to their menstrual periods.
We have all heard the story of horrible PMS, crushing cramps, cursed bloating, lethargy to beat all lethargy, uteruses that are so swollen and heavy they threaten to fall from the body if given half a chance.
This half of the story has been told because it keeps women down. We are told we are hormonal, irritable, “not our normal selves”, and if we were to believe this story, everyone is simply waiting for this “horrible” time to be over.
Perhaps this story is true. Perhaps we do feel bloated, irritable, and tired. So what? Because the next half of the story has yet to be told, and we all know, the second-half, the best, is always saved for last.
The true story of the period, if we were to allow the narrative to continue, is that after the plummet of progesterone which accounts for many PMS symptoms, the period happens, and subsequently estrogen levels begin to rise.
And this is where the story gets good. Estrogen can be a euphoria hormone. When you are high on estrogen, you literally feel you can take on the world. I am not kidding. You feel unstoppable, gracious, abundant and exude confidence. In my mind, this is a woman in her Goddess-state.
So many of us falsely think that this is simply due to the period ending, that the period was the interloper in the natural “Super-Woman” state that everyone enjoys. This is not true. The woman, and all around her, are benefiting from the sweet uptick in estrogen.
No one ever talks about this, though, because all we have ever heard is the half-story, the darkness of PMS and the period, and how all suffer under a woman in this state. We suffer the onslaught of PMS jokes, queries from husbands of “Is it that time again?”, and something which breaks my heart- we speak poorly of ourselves and our periods, the “curse” we must suffer.
No one talks about the benefits of living with basically a Goddess following the week or two after the period. My agreement to do a Disney trip with the in-laws prior to a 7-day vacation with them had “Estrogen High” written all over it. My husband, stepkids, and myself all love this post-period Kim who looks at life and says, “Bring it on.” Sometimes, period-Kim wants to lay in bed with the blinds drawn for a day or two.
Half-told stories are never fulfilling. They always leave you hanging, hearing only half the truth.
Women, don’t let this happen to you. Write your own stories. Pay attention to your body and its responses and see if you don’t see yourself as a Goddess during the sweet time of Estrogen. Men, note this in your woman’s life, as you most likely benefit from it. Rejoice in her abundant energy post-period, and then support her when she perhaps feels less than great during other times.
Let the narrative move to completion. Tell and live the other-half. This is the balance of life- beautifully shown in a woman.