Are you living a Life of Reverence or Reference?
Sadly, until I really started working on this in my own life, the answer was, of course, “Reference”.
My points of reference consist of such thing as : my career, my education, my family status (stepmom without children of her own), relations to others (wife, sister, daughter), my profession, etc.
My own self-projections and ideas of what I “should” be have served as Reference points. The Reference point is always something I have done or am going to do. Points of Reference also cycle around me, in how I am perceived by others.
When I am living a life of Reference, the process is constantly one of compare/contrast as I work to define myself.
And, now, I realize living a life of Reference is a silly waste of the gift of Life. How much different would my life be if I approached it not from creating a point of Reference, but rather living with a sense of Reverence for all that I have been given?
What if, rather than my next great plan or my next great concern about how I am being perceived and treated, I simply stopped, took a breath, and had a sense of Reverence for this beautiful act of living Life?
When I think about it, there is not one signal point of Reference that can touch the awe, joy, and delight at living a Life of Reverence.