The Odyssey of the Narcissist
For success with any narcissist you must detach- physically (if possible), and emotionally. If complete detachment is not possible, keeping your self grounded and centered is essential. Narcissists are prone to one flight of fancy after another. Every instinct which you have, that screams at you to relate to another person as you normally would, must be suppressed, covered up, and buried when interacting with a narcissist.
In a symbolic sense, tie yourself and your kind, compassionate heart to a tree or some immovable object so you are not tempted to follow the narcissist’s siren song. The song will sound beautiful, plaintive, designed to touch your heart strings. No matter what- IGNORE IT! Pretend your are Ulysses strapped to the ship, resisting the siren’s wail.
Your life is great as it is- don’t ruin it by setting your sail in a narcissist’s direction.
Why is this so important?
You can’t travel along with Narcissists because they never know where in the hell they are going.
Take my husband’s ex-wife for example. In the past 96 hours she has requested more child support, which needs to begin “immediately”. When he requests more documentation from her, she can not send it because she has left for the week. Huh? We ask the children where their Mom is and they don’t know. They weren’t even sure she had left.
Who ever knows, truly, where a narcissist “is”? They are neither “here” nor “there”. They make one grand, swooping statement after another never bothering to pay attention to how their position changes form one minute to the next. (As a side-note, you are NOT to notice these sweeping changes in position. If the Narcissist insists “Black!” and then says “White!”, you are supposed to understand. )
Narcissists are crazy-makers. If they were willing to participate in their own “Magical Mystery Tour” of life on their own that would be one thing. As they say, though, misery loves company and if there is anything a narcissist loves it’s company for their “joy ride”. Too bad your screams will not be ones of pleasure if you decide to travel with them.