Writing Fiction with Your Favorite Narcissist
I can not write fiction. I have tried. By the third paragraph, I have managed to bore even myself. But, lucky for me, I now have the pleasure of interacting with a phenomenal fiction creator- a narcissist.
Let me tell you, no one is as capable of creating fiction in the real world as a narcissist. Recently, my husband’s ex-wife lost her job. She told my husband that the company for which she worked had offered her a contract, but she did not think it was enough. They terminated her.
As she contacted my husband, she also informed him that she would be needing more child support. So, we were now involved in the situation. At this point, her creative juices really had only begun flowing. For, just last week, my husband received an e-mail from his attorney. The ex-wife’s attorney had apparently written a note wondering why all this talk about this “other contract” was occurring. The ex-wife’s attorney stated that my husband’s ex- had no idea about this “other” contract, and she wanted to know who was “spreading rumors” about her.
Oh, my goodness. This is such a narcissist for you. She can not own up to the fact that she turned down a contract, then was silly enough to tell my husband about this contract. Instead, she goes into “fiction” mode. She conveniently “forgets” everything and to make her story even more plausible, in her mind, she turns the tables further and wonders who is “spreading rumors” about her.
I know, I know, this type of thought process is difficult to follow and understand. Given its convoluted manner, all you can do is throw up your hands and utter, “Wonders never cease in the mind of a narcissist.”
It took all my patience in this world, upon being informed of this, not to pick up my phone, call my husband’s ex-wife and say, simply “The person who is ‘spreading rumors’ about you is you, you idiot.”
But such words are wasted on the narcissist. They are the JRR Tolkien’s of their lives, creating one fantastical world after another. The plot lines are sadly, predictable, not inventive, and a bit repetitive. I find myself mentally, rapidly turning the pages, trying to get to the “end” of this story.
It’s so true! Who’s destroying your reputation? You are, you flippin’ moron. Haha!
I know- I truly do not know what she is thinking. Stressful situations have never brought out the best in any narcissist and I think this is a great example.
Don’t I know this one!!
My NP wrote a whole 642 page book of FICTION and called it NON-FICTION. Too bad she didn’t add just a few more ‘factual’ pages…to bring it up to 666! Not that that # has any significance to me!
The thing that gets me is…there are people that truly believe that everyone has the right to tell their story, either in print or verbally, FROM THEIR POINT OF VIEW, and believe that it’s truth and non-fiction and that there is no libel or slander or trouble within!!
Sure we all have some subjective way we view life, but really now…what do these types do about that objective universe everyone else lives in? Oh that’s right they ignored it
I know. The damage a narcissist may cause by living in their own “fantasies” is shocking. It’s so sad that we must be vigilent and protect ourselves against such action. I agree we all have a certain level of subjectivity in our lives. Narcissists just take it to a new level.
That is so NPD! And they while they give the pot a good stir they’re hoping that everyone is getting fussed. How they love the drama!
I know!! Seriously, what attorney uses the phrase “spreading rumors” in a child support modification situation. sigh….To a narcissist, it always has to be big and dramatic.
All of the comments are spot on. Narcissism is also a personality trait of a psychopath! I was in a on/off relationship with one for years before I even realized what the heck was going on. He had me thinking I was crazy before I finally was able to pull back some of the layers of lies. The scariest thing for me was how easily he could lie about anything and everything. It boggles the mind of any ordinary human.
I know! I never want to seem petty or finger-pointing when I write about narcissism, but on the other hand, I think we need to share such messages. I think for most people who do not have NPD, we can really be thrown for a loop when we interact with someone with narcissism. We seem to have almost no defense, because they think so differently than the rest of us. I am glad you are no longer involved with this person.